Although it may not always seem like it, people who grow up with unloving mothers go through similar difficulties. They may feel divided, but they have a lot in common, whether they can see it or not.
Yes, your unloving mother may have been different from someone else’s, but that doesn’t mean you can’t relate to others who shared similar struggles growing up. For some reason, as human beings, we like to be divided, and it only makes things worse. Below I will go over some of the things that daughters of unloving mothers tend to experience.
I know that for some, these things are more intense and for others, some of these things are not as important, but they are all present for the most part. As we grow in life, we begin to see how much of an influence our upbringing has on us and not getting the love you deserved may have done more damage than you want to admit. By accepting these things and acknowledging them, you can change them.
The 9 common wounds that daughters of unloving mothers tend to face:
1-They never feel good enough.
Because their mothers always put them down, they never feel like what they’re doing is good enough. The harder they try, the more they feel like they’re falling behind. Their accomplishments never meant anything to their mothers and even now it affects them in their own eyes.
2-They don’t really know how to set appropriate boundaries.
These daughters of mothers who refused or failed to love them are also not very good at setting boundaries. They often have trouble saying “no” and let others walk all over them. They are more or less used by the people around them and this is very sad.
3-They don’t feel like they deserve to be happy or satisfied.
If you are an unloved girl, chances are you don’t feel like you deserve happiness as a whole. You feel like you haven’t done enough to get it and that you won’t find it. Even in the moments when you could be happy, you close yourself off and shut things down without realizing it.
4-They feel that even those who care for them are faking it.
These girls do not handle their emotions well. They often lack the ability to determine who is using them and who really cares about them. They feel that those around them are faking it, even though they are not, because they do not feel worthy of the compassion offered to them.
5-They do not see themselves as they are.
Unloved girls struggle with their self-image. They do not see themselves as they are, they see themselves through the eyes of mothers who refused to love them. They feel like they are going to fail no matter what and in some cases this has driven them into a corner where they don’t even want to try.
They find it hard to have relationships because of the cycle they get stuck in.
6-As an unloved girl, you may be attracted to the wrong types of people. When it comes to dating, you always seem to choose the ones that hurt you the most, over and over again. This is a toxic cycle that has not been easy for you to break and makes you wonder if you should really try.
7-They avoid painful situations and are always on the defensive.
Because of the things these girls have been through, they are quite defensive. They are not comfortable in painful situations and avoid them as best they can. While this may not be the best course of action for you, it’s what you’ve always done and, in many ways, the only way you know how to cope.
8-They have trouble trusting others, and not just a little.
Because these unloved girls had no one to trust, they have a hard time trusting others in general. You really need to make an extra effort to prove your worth to them before they start opening up to you. Getting close to these types of people is complicated at best.
9-They are very sensitive, to a point.
If you know these girls at all, you know that they can be sensitive. They see it as a bad thing, no matter what the circumstances, but sometimes it’s not a fault. However, it is a fault in the way they react to it. Instead of accepting it, they try to hide it and don’t show their feelings to anyone, not even themselves.